Monday, May 15, 2017

Lay Down Your Sword. Interview on CKNW 98 with Host, Maureen McGrath


Last night I sat down with Host, Maureen McGrath of the Sunday Night Sex and Relationship show to talk about Playing with a Lion’s Testicles.

First, I should explain the meaning of playing with a lion’s testicles as some of your listeners may think your show has taken an awkward turn.

Playing with a lion’s testicles is a South African expression that means, have the courage to have the courage.

Your show is a relationship show, why don’t we talk about having the courage to repair the most important but ignored (human) relationship most of us will ever have? 
The relationship with self.

The most challenging and neglected relationship most of us have is the relationship with ourselves.

And perhaps the most toxic poison we carry with us is that of guilt.

We are the only creature on earth who will beat ourselves up over and over and over again for a mistake we made. How many times do we have to pay?

When in reality, our universe is evolving, our planet is evolving, everything in nature is evolving – the acorn that evolves into a seedling into an oak tree – and we, too are evolving and learning. We are here to learn the lessons we signed up for, even if we have to repeat the lesson, over and over and over and over again.

Some of us have high expectations that we’re not allowed to make mistakes, that we should already be perfect, that we should have all the answers.
We are human – yes it’s a temporary condition, but we are human. We’re supposed to evolve and have room for improvement.

How do we do that?
1)    Have the courage to lay down your sword. To go without and go within. Everything that comes up that isn’t loving needs healing. It’s coming up to be healed. And you can’t heal by swinging a sword at those things. You heal through love, kindness, compassion and forgiveness for yourself.
2)    Lay down the sword of self-recrimination, the sword of judgement and guilt you hold against your own throat. Louise Hay wrote a book 30 years ago called, You can Heal Your Life and she says, look in your own eyes and say, I love you and accept you for who you are right now and I forgive you. Healing and Forgiveness are two branches on the same tree of relationships.

When you lay down your sword you release yourself from the tyranny of guilt and self-attack.

It takes more courage to love than to hate, to forgive than to fight. Most of our thoughts about ourselves are fearful, negative ones.

The exit door to fear is courage. Courage to improve the most important and neglected (earthly) relationship you will ever have. Everything worth living for is on the other side of that door.

A Course in Miracles says, it is in your defenselessness that you will find your strength.
Lay down your sword.





Sunday, May 14, 2017

Guest Post by Spiritual Badass, Jill Prescott: Stop Keeping Secrets


 
I am honored to present to you Jill Prescott, she has an empowering message to share that will help you find your courage.
Jill Prescott is a Spiritual BadAss, committed to guiding people through trauma to freedom, with Love. She is an intuitive healer, international speaker and facilitator. Jill is leading a movement of open and vulnerable dialogue aimed at helping people leave trauma in the past so they can take full ownership of this human experience. 

stop KEEPING SECRETS.
F*CK teaching our children to keep secrets. There is nothing but destruction created when we are told “don’t tell” “keep it in the family” “if you tell, someone’s gonna get hurt”
F*CK THAT! No more secrets. NO MORE SECRETS!
F*ck the damage it does and the suppression it creates. And the guilt and the shame. It leaves the person holding the secret bound to guilt and shame. Bound to suffering. Bound to staying small. Bound to feeling broken. Staying silent keeps you in pain. The secrets become blocks in our bodies. Walls are created, keeping us separate from each other. Alone in our pain. As adults we don’t know what to do with our secrets and so we bury them deep in our hearts and bodies but they don’t stay there. Eventually, they come up to haunt us, creating illness, dis-ease and mental illness. They rob us of our joy and peace. And all the time we are passing on this legacy to our children. We teach them how to hold secrets, how to suffer in silence, generation after generation after generation. And the shame continues. And the guilt continues.  F*ck keeping secrets! No more secrets. They are robbing you of who you truly are and what you are meant to do in this life.

TAKE BACK YOUR INNOCENCE. 
It is time to stop the secrets. It is time to be afraid and tell anyway. It is time to tell your stories. Share your grief and your pain. Bring that darkness to the light. Bring it to the light so the guilt and shame can be released so that you can let the light in. Tell your secrets. Stop carrying them. They’re breaking you. They’re breaking you! Don’t let them break you anymore! Offer your secrets to the world as a gift so that others know they are not alone. Offer them so that we can break the cycle of silence so that are children do not have to carry our burden. So that are babies are born into innocence and so that innocence comes back to us. Tell your secrets and take away their power so you may heal. Forgive and let love back in. Let love shine from you. Let love be what guides you. No more f*cking secrets!
Are you ready to let go of your secrets? Find someone safe to tell them to. Go to the people that love you and share. Call me if you don’t have anyone you feel safe enough to tell your secrets to. I will listen. When you do this, when you open the door these secrets have been locked behind you will begin to heal. Light of truth is like salve for the wounds. You no longer need to carry this load. 

If you have a secret that’s draining you, you can reach Jill here.
Jill also recently delivered an empowering TEDx talk titled, ‘Being Vulnerable Gave Me Freedom From Sexual Abuse and Bullying’ 



Thursday, May 4, 2017

Who's more Enlightened?

Goes without saying: our fur buddies.
We are all Spiritual beings having a temporary human (or canine) experience.

Ferocious Man-Eater or Beautiful Creation to be Protected?



Max Planck was a 20th century Quantum Physicist.
In 1918 he won the noble peace prize for his discovery of quantum physics.
But the road to this discovery was a bumpy one.
He had to throw away all the beliefs, all the empirical evidence he had collected over his lifetime as a scientist and admit that what he (and the rest of the world) thought was absolute physical law was in fact, wrong.
Imagine the courage, it took to say, everything we think we know is wrong – and that was before he had evidence to prove it so.

With one hypothesis after another proven wrong, with frustration keeping him awake day after day after day, Max Planck had to be willing to see things differently, he had to open his mind to new frontiers never before explored let alone discovered.
It turned his left-brained, scientific genius world upside down.

What he discovered, would change reality forever. With every quantum second that we perceive it, we change reality according to our beliefs, however subliminal or intentional they may be.

Max Planck discovered quantum physics. In a nutshell, he discovered that when we change the way we look at things – whether that be through a highly precise scientific microscope or just through your own eyes at the person sitting across from you at the dinner table, THE THINGS WE LOOK AT CHANGE based on our thought about them.

I know, groovy, spooky and so fluffing cool.

“As a man who has devoted his whole life to the most clearheaded science, to the study of matter, I can tell you as a result of my research about the atoms this much: There is no matter as such! All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force which brings the particles of an atom to vibration and holds this most minute solar system of the atom together. . . We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent Mind. This Mind is the matrix of all matter.” Max Planck.

It’s true. It’s life changing. It’s awesome.

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
The possibilities are infinite.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FHgwS5Auq9w

Sunday, April 23, 2017

1 in 400,000,000,000,000


You are a WORTHY, magnificent and adventurous soul.
Your chances of being here, on earth, at this time in history are 1 in 400 Trillion.
1 in 400 trillion.
You were chosen to experience this gift called life. 
By who or what doesn't matter, just that you're here now and you agreed to this adventure, you who thought you weren't adventurous!
What could be more adventurous than being 1 in 400 trillion who took the plunge into this thing called life on this rock called Earth.
Keep that number front of mind next time you question your worth, your abilities or the small stuff starts weighing you down. 

1 in 400,000,000,000,000. That's YOU!

Sunday, April 9, 2017

How to be more Creative by 29-Time Emmy Award Winner Bill Stainton

The sources for creativity, compassion, solutions and meaning from this crazy thing called life, are, well, right beside you.


Saturday, April 8, 2017

Lucky is an Understatement


When you hit an obstacle, or a bad chapter in your life, here's someone who has found the resilience to keep turning the pages and reminds us all that 'lucky' is the strength to turn the chapters on life's tough chapters.

I've met Mary-Jo Dionne and she's about the most selfless person there is. 
She encourages and applauds everyone she encounters and her internal light is so bright it can be seen from galaxies far away.
And, she's a gifted writer and story-teller.

If you need a dose of positivity, or some encouragement to turn a difficult page, head over here to read her most recent article on Huffington Post.

Friday, March 31, 2017

Tea with a Titan Podcast Interview with Mary-Jo Dionne

Last week I had the honor of having tea (and being interviewed) with a delightful, talented and hilariously funny woman named Mary-Jo Dionne on her podcast, Tea with a Titan.

She is a talented writer, interviewer, one-woman show performer, TED talker and mom.

 We met shortly after my TEDx talk, Playingwith a Lions Testicles,can be viewed here.
Here is a link to the interview.
What book do we recommend you download for free? Right here, right now? The War of Art or Do The Work by Steven Pressfield





Monday, March 13, 2017

Perception is Reality - Mary-Jo Dionne TEDx Talk

This empowering talk by award-winning writer, performer, speaker and interviewer Mary-Jo Dionne proves that perception IS reality and the glass is always half full.

In a couple of weeks I'll be joining Mary-Jo for tea on her podcast, Tea with a Titan, can't wait!




Thursday, March 9, 2017

Thank you Fellow Lions at TEDx Stanley Park


Thank you for coming out on Saturday to the majestic Queen Elizabeth Theatre to celebrate a day of big ideas, story-telling, and playing with a lion's testicles.

It can be a little daunting to walk out onto a stage and see nearly 2700 people, but not this past Saturday.

You were all so kind, gracious, fun and the positive energy could no doubt be felt on Venus!
What a beautiful audience!

My only regret was that we didn’t have more time together post-show to share ghost stories and laughs and, even a few tears.

Thank you for reaching out and sharing your powerful stories.

Our ghosts are always looking for opportunities to get those shackles back on us - but we always have a choice if we let them or not.

You are a LION. Time to stand up and roar and break free from those chains. 
This is our one and only precious life (maybe?) - and we are here in this little parenthesis of time and space together, right here, right now.

Have the courage to have the courage.



Friday, February 24, 2017

Playing with a Lion's Testicles by Life Story Artist, Deborah LeFrank



Deborah is the owner of Visual Life Stories.
She attending a talk I gave in Victoria last month and created a beautiful picture story of the talk.
A little more about Deborah’s company:
At Visual Life Stories, our graphic journalists, are passionate about using beautiful words and captivating images to tell stories that create powerful, engaging, precious legacies in the form of beautifully crafted accordion style books. The perfect gift idea for your loved one.
This write-up from ‘Your Life Story’ graphic journalist, Deborah LeFrank.
I can take no credit for this intriguing title but I’m pretty sure it caught your attention. It comes from an African saying prompting you to face your fears. Author Melissa Haynes learned this expression when she decided to challenge her personal fears and head to Africa to answer an inner calling.
Have you ever had one of those inner calling kind of conversations with yourself where you think it might be a fun thing to do something but your logical brain says hell no, that’s way too over the top, too complicated, too scary, too whatever? And so you stay in the tried and true path of life. Hey and why not it’s a comfortable place.
In Africa, there are animals that can kill you pretty damn quickly, in particular the lion. Fear can be sensed by animals (and humans). This can get you into trouble if you are feeling scared and vulnerable. Melissa was struck with how facing the fear of a lion in the jungle speaks to facing our fears of living a passionate life.  The fear has you feeling like a chicken so you’re frozen from moving forward. In the jungle that will get you killed, in modern life it kills your dreams. So how do you go from feeling like a chicken to thinking like a lion?
Africans say that if you “Learn to Play with the Lion’s Testicles” you are facing your fears, remembering and showing how strong and powerful you are. When you choose change you can let go of fear and answer your life’s calling.    
Last month at an Inspired Victoria speaker night Melissa shared her story with us. She gave us a preview of the talk she will do March 4th in Vancouver at TEDx Stanley ParkHer website gives you an enlightening time line on the TED process, and it is in a word, daunting.

Playing with a Lions Testicles in Hawaii





Playing with a lion's testicles: A South African saying that means, 'have the courage to have the courage'.

Thursday, January 26, 2017

Become a Lion

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Need a Sign? Look up.


It’s five weeks until my TEDx talk titled, Playing with a Lion’s Testicles at the historic Queen Elizabeth theatre in Vancouver.

It’s been a long selection process: six months so far.
They started out with dozens of awesome and inspiring speakers, speakers who deserve the stage more than me, seriously.
Then they narrowed it down to 13 of us.

The process looked something like this:
1)    July, 2016: Written proposal outlining the tough, tangible, universal problem you are addressing.
2)    August 2016: TEDx Panel Interview, in the ‘hot seat’.
3)    September 2016: Draft 1 speech submission.
4)    Late-September 2016: Draft 2 speech submission (which was really draft 200).
5)    October 2016: Live reading before the panel.
6)    Late-October 2016: Notification that I have been selected (Holy Snap!).
7)    Late October – Now: 1,763,248 drafts of script written, stomped on, cried on and shredded. A marshmallow addiction is born (wtf?), they are gluten-free!
8)    November and December: Two live rehearsals before the panel. Coaching by three talented and tough TEDx coaches. (This made it worth every tear, the coaching was first-class and a huge learning curve).
9)    January 1: New Year’s Resolution to lose the extra ten pounds of ‘marshmallow’ weight before March 4.
10) January 23: Deadline to submit FINAL speech script and Power Point slides after seven months of eating, breathing and sleeping TED.
11) January 24: Still haven’t lost an ounce of marshmallow weight.
12) January 24: Doubt and Public Humiliation ‘ghosts’ start to surface.
I want to write draft 2,345,971 of my script but it’s too late. It’s been submitted to the producer, deadline has passed.
Butterflies have overtaken my stomach and while I am sitting at a red light having a wee-bit of a panic nervous attack. I look over and see the billboard pictured above. It’s HUGE. There are no words. Just a lion (remember my speech title?). I don’t know if he’s saying,
“Come, play with my testicles.” (Which means have COURAGE) or if he’s just saying, “Roar”.
Either way, I take it as sign, a reminder to have the courage to have the courage, to remember that this talk is not about me. That I’m not perfect and that’s OK, but I do have courage to battle my ghosts.
I’ve spent the last seven months writing this talk for the person who is in the dark and lonely valley battling their ghosts, who is perhaps on the verge of giving up on their dreams because it’s too hard, or they have ghosts haunting them: public humiliation, doubt, failure, or even success.
We’ve all stood in the shadow of ghosts, but the problem with ghosts is no matter the type, they all eventually become ghosts of regret.
This is a universal problem.

Have the courage to have the courage, play with a lion’s testicles and ROAR – I’m right here with you, we all are.