Last night I sat down with Host,
Maureen McGrath of the Sunday Night Sex and Relationship show to talk about
Playing with a Lion’s Testicles.
First, I should explain the meaning of
playing with a lion’s testicles as some of your listeners may think your show
has taken an awkward turn.
Playing with a lion’s testicles is a
South African expression that means, have the courage to have the courage.
Your show is a relationship show, why
don’t we talk about having the courage to repair the most important but ignored
(human) relationship most of us will ever have?
The relationship with self.
The relationship with self.
The most challenging and neglected relationship
most of us have is the relationship with ourselves.
And perhaps the most toxic poison we
carry with us is that of guilt.
We are the only creature on earth who
will beat ourselves up over and over and over again for a mistake we made. How
many times do we have to pay?
When in reality, our universe is
evolving, our planet is evolving, everything in nature is evolving – the acorn
that evolves into a seedling into an oak tree – and we, too are evolving and
learning. We are here to learn the lessons we signed up for, even if we have to
repeat the lesson, over and over and over and over again.
Some of us have high expectations that
we’re not allowed to make mistakes, that we should already be perfect, that we
should have all the answers.
We are human – yes it’s a temporary
condition, but we are human. We’re supposed to evolve and have room for
improvement.
How do we do that?
1)
Have the courage to lay down your
sword. To go without and go within. Everything that comes up that isn’t loving
needs healing. It’s coming up to be healed. And you can’t heal by swinging a
sword at those things. You heal through love, kindness, compassion and
forgiveness for yourself.
2)
Lay down the sword of
self-recrimination, the sword of judgement and guilt you hold against your own
throat. Louise Hay wrote a book 30 years ago called, You can Heal Your Life and
she says, look in your own eyes and say, I love you and accept you for who you
are right now and I forgive you. Healing and Forgiveness are two branches on
the same tree of relationships.
When you lay down your sword you
release yourself from the tyranny of guilt and self-attack.
It takes more courage to love than to
hate, to forgive than to fight. Most of our thoughts about ourselves are
fearful, negative ones.
The exit door to fear is courage. Courage
to improve the most important and neglected (earthly) relationship you will
ever have. Everything worth living for is on the other side of that door.
A Course in Miracles says, it is in
your defenselessness that you will find your strength.
Lay down your sword.
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